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Ten Qualities of Extraordinary Love

Ten Qualities of Extraordinary Love

Miss Millennia Magazine   Here is my list of what makes a passionate, healthy, soulful relationship: 1.) Togetherness in spiritual participation.  Your relationship with the Divine is top priority.  Your partner is a physical form of your ability to express your spiritual essence. 2.) You make each other laugh hysterically.  Laughter adds zest to romantic life and gets you through the long haul. 3.) The relationship is free from any type of addiction.  Habitual use of drugs & alcohol, as well as compulsive behavior related to work, sex, shopping, food, computer use, exercise, etc. destroys the potential of an extraordinary relationship.  The greatest form of love is total presence and attention. 4.) Deep attraction and a passionate sex life.  One of the most extraordinary aspects of the human existence is shared in love making. 5.) Each partner gives 100% of their 50% to the relationship, and expectations are based on agreements.  Balance and boundaries are keys to good health. 6.) Unwavering loyalty and a devotion to uplifting one another.  Loyalty and support bring out the best in people and are must-haves from the people closest to us. 7.) Dedication to health and growth.  Every physical form in nature is either growing or dying.  Maintaining good health habits and a commitment to improvement prevents decline and makes life more gratifying. 8.) Each partner fulfills his/her great work in the world.  Rather than seeking a rescuer or someone to make you whole, each partner brings the joy of their own life to the other each day. 9.) Treat yourself with the kindness and delicacy of a precious gem worthy of the best.  The love you receive from others is reflected in the precious, tender care that you give yourself. 10.) You love each other through God’s eyes.  Forgiveness and seeing your partner as perfect and whole despite their human imperfections is the essence of love.   Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be...

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Create and Maintain a Healthy Relationship that Lasts

Create and Maintain a Healthy Relationship that Lasts

February: the aura of romance, the month of love.  Celebrate healthy relationships with Healer and Spiritual Teacher, Heather Hans, as she gives people the practical nuts and bolts for thriving in a healthy relationship. Boulder, CO (PRWEB) February 19, 2013 –  Now that you’ve been winded and dined, and the alluring desire and sensuality of Saint Valentine’s holiday has passed, certified law of attraction practitioner Heather Hans shares her take on how to create and maintain healthy relationships that last all year long. Hans, a spiritual healer, believes that love is the essence of a relationship, while boundaries are the form that hold the relationship together and make it sustainable. She’s shared ten tips for people to consider when entering a new relationship this Valentine’s Day season: Reveal a little of yourself at a time and move step by step into intimacy.  A seed needs patience and nurturing to sprout.  Instant intimacy is a red flag and a sign of disregarded boundaries.  Too much distance is also a boundary violation at the other end of the spectrum and leaves one feeling abandoned or neglected. Use “I” statements.  Describe how things impact you and make clear your expectations, rather than pointing your finger in blame.  Blame leads to defensiveness and what goes around comes around, so you shoot yourself in the foot when you blame someone. Maintain your values despite fear of criticism.  If your values are not valued by a potential love interest, they are not the right person for you. Notice if the other person’s boundaries are inappropriate.  These observations are the clues that tell you if this relationship will be healthy or not. Don’t take advantage of someone’s generosity if you are not interested.  You don’t want to violate the other person’s boundaries, even if they don’t stand up for themself. Don’t give too much for the purpose of getting someone to like you.  Over-giving is a recipe for codependency and dysfunction. Know who you are and what you want.  Trust your instincts and decisions about a person or situation. Don’t ever try to control how another person thinks, believes, feels or acts.  If you don’t like it, leave, but it is inappropriate for you to try to control them. Remember that partners are not mind readers.  Clearly communicate your wants and needs. Honor your own personal boundaries with yourself.  Live in balance and honesty so you are not tempted to abuse your body.  Speak well of yourself.  Make sure you go for your dreams whether in a relationship or not! Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be...

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Meet February 2013’s Love and Relationship Lady Lennia Heather Hans!

Meet February 2013’s Love and Relationship Lady Lennia Heather Hans!

Miss Millennia Magazine  Follow Heather this February as she gives some amazing advice about Love and Relationships as our honorary Lady Lennia of the Month! Heather is an entrepreneur in the field of love and has graciously agreed to share her extensive knowledge on the subject! Welcome Heather! …it’s a dream come true for me to pay forward all that has been given to me and all that I have accomplished. Age: 37 Occupation: licensed social worker and psychotherapist, certified professional intuitive coach, certified law of attraction advanced practitioner, and holds a certificate in holistic health   What makes you an expert in Love and Relationships? Three things.  First, I was born with an extraordinary capacity for love.  I always knew that I was unique in my acute sensitivity, but I mostly kept it to myself or viewed it as a burden until I recognized it as a gift.  Now I know that my sensitivity to love is the reason I was put on this earth – to serve as a channel, because it is through love that we heal, create and tap into our greatest power. Second, my school of hard knocks experience taught me everything love is NOT.  Math proves truths by subtracting falsities, and I have used this practical application to learn about love.  I have experienced every type of pain when it comes to relationships, and have emerged with a solid knowledge of true love and what creates a healthy relationship.  My passion for serving others on this journey is even greater than my personal motivations for love and relationships. Third, I am well-schooled through formal education and self-study on the inner-workings of love and relationships.  I have spent dozens of thousands of dollars and a countless amount of time and energy pursuing knowledge and experience on this thing we call love, which is felt through relationships because, at its core, love is what the universe is made of. Are you in, or have you gone to college? If so, when did you graduate or what is your expected graduation date? Yes, I graduated from college in 1997.  I also have a master’s degree in business administration and a master’s degree in social work. What is your area of study? If you are not enrolled in school, then what alternative did you take to put yourself on the road to accomplishing your dreams? Holistic healing and self-actualization.  My expertise comes from formal education (I am a licensed social worker and psychotherapist, certified professional intuitive coach, certified law of attraction advanced practitioner, and I hold a certificate in holistic health), as well as over 15 years of study through skilled professionals, workshops, books and spiritual study.  I have healed myself from impossible illness and trauma and am now honored to create a space for others to do the same. What has been your biggest struggle in achieving your goals? How are you overcoming it? Becoming overwhelmed and doubting myself, both of which are a product of feeling disconnected.  I am overcoming it through prayer, meditation, trusting in myself and a Greater Intelligence, doing my best at everything within my power and letting go of all the rest.  There is a lot of power in surrender and realizing that I don’t need to carry the weight of the world...

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Heal your Suffering This Year with Healer and Spiritual Teacher, Heather Hans

Heal your Suffering This Year with Healer and Spiritual Teacher, Heather Hans

  It’s a New Year, and a New You, and Healer and Spiritual teacher Heather Hans shares how the forlorn and lonesome can overcome their personal suffering and jump into the mystery and excitement that is 2013. As the darkest days of winter are now in the past, and a New Year shines on the horizon, Heather Hans wants individuals to recognize that experiencing pain, and overcoming pain, is a necessary and integral part of the human experience.  She added, “The goal is not to transcend pain or reach some dangling-carrot state of enlightenment described by a crisscrossed legged guru. Rather, if we can live fully, and consciously use our pain to live our best life, then we may gain meaning in our own life and the events of the world.” Ironically, Hans suggests that the way out of suffering is to walk right into your pain. She said, “As Robert Frost said, the best way out is always through." But what happens most often is that we reach for any type of numbing remedy the instant we feel uneasy. For some people, drugs, alcohol, food, or overuse of internet serve this purpose. For others, giving to others and controlling do the trick. Whatever the go-to fix, we avoid opening our hearts to our own pain to hear what it has to say. The unknown frightens us and so we would rather stick to tried and true vices, which ultimately cause us to spin our wheels and stay stuck in repetitive suffering.” “Pain is a gift if we allow it to be so. By virtue of our capacity to love, our hearts and bodies serve as internal barometers to indicate that balance must be restored. So, I encourage you to feel your pain,” added Hans. “Open the door and walk right into it. Cry your heart out, wonder if there is a reason to live, and allow yourself to feel the pain of the world and of your own life. Be angry at God. God can take it. Let it all out and allow yourself to be answerless.” Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be...

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5 Best Gifts to Give Your Children this Thanksgiving Revealed by Relationship Expert Heather Hans

5 Best Gifts to Give Your Children this Thanksgiving Revealed by Relationship Expert Heather Hans

As the holidays approach, Love Expert and Psychotherapist, Heather Hans, is offering insights for men and women looking for success in the World of Love. 1.) Good Nutrition. A nourishing diet is the base for healthy development and productive and satisfying living. Children’s brains do not stop forming until their mid-twenties and they, especially, need a nutritious diet for proper development. 2.) A Balanced Lifestyle. Overstimulation is one of the most unloving acts we can allow in a child’s life. It takes effort to adhere to boundaries and create a healthy rate and rhythm in your child’s life, but he/she pays a price when you do not do so, such as compromising their immune system and creating psychological disorders. Having a balanced amount of activities in a day or a week allows a child to feel centered and fully digest their experience. 3.) Presence. Attention is the biggest forms of love you can give to anyone, especially a child. Really listen to your child. What is it like in her world? What are his feelings? The wise and nurturing parent listens more than talks to their child. Get down at eye level and put yourself in their shoes. Make a point of carving out time to be present with them, and put your other thoughts and tasks on hold while you do so. 4.) Praise and Acceptance. It’s so easy for parents to go into “automatic” and point out their child’s needed areas of improvement. And it is important to address these areas if they cause a problem for the child. Boundaries are a key to good health. However, what they need the most is to know how unconditionally loveable they are. They don’t want to know that you know it all. They want to know that they are loved. 5.) Spiritual Education and Support. It’s important to make sure that kids are staying connected to the source on a day-to-day basis. Take the time to discuss spirituality with your children, and remember to encourage them to discover for themselves what God/Life/Love means to them. Having children donate their time at community events is an example of a way kids can feel connected to a bigger purpose. Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be...

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Love Relationship Help from Heather Hans: What Every Woman Ought to Know About Anger

Love Relationship Help from Heather Hans: What Every Woman Ought to Know About Anger

During Women of Achievement Month, Psychotherapist Heather Hans is offering help for women looking for success in the World of Love. According to Hans, a woman can only achieve extraordinary love when she embraces her anger and uses it to become more conscious. Hans knows what makes a passionate, healthy, and soulful relationship with self, another, and the Divine. “Just as when our body falls ill, anger is a wake-up call to make a change,” said Hans, who says that women can use their anger to reach true love. “Kind, accommodating, and generous women are often the most plagued by anger. Because they identify as sweet do-gooders, many of them find their anger unacceptable, and so they bury it, avoid it, feel shameful about it, and do whatever they can to rid themselves of it.” In doing so, they miss the precious gift that their anger is trying to give them, and they become stuck in a cycle of exhaustion, despair, and low self-esteem. The next time you feel angry, take time to discover its root. Each path is unique, although the following messages are some of the most common gifts that anger brings:  It is time to set healthier boundaries. The less you accommodate others and the more you tend to yourself, the happier and healthier everyone will be. Let love in. Anger is a way to keep love out. Givers are the most susceptible to anger, as they often feel unworthy of love. Have faith that the Divine is on your side. Anger often means that we are stuck in a dysfunctional pattern and it is time to have faith and step into new territory. Releasing your victim mentality and owning your power will set you free. You consciously and subconsciously create your life. Learning to let go of what you cannot change, and changing what you can is the key. Your angry feelings need to be expressed constructively so you can get to the root of them. You can to do this by writing a letter or writing in your journal, speaking to someone using a level-head and “I” statements, exercising, or getting drunk and punching a hole in the wall (just making sure you’re awake). Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be...

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Love Relationship Help from Heather Hans: 15 Characters to Avoid for Extraordinary Love

Love Relationship Help from Heather Hans: 15 Characters to Avoid for Extraordinary Love

As Women of Achievement Month begins, Psychotherapist Heather Hans is offering help for women looking for success in the World of Love. Hans knows what makes a passionate, healthy, and soulful relationship. See her review below to learn how to avoid the same old failures and find the perfectly matched partner that every empowered woman deserves. According to Hans, the biggest mistake women make when it comes to love relationships is saying yes to any man who shows interest in them. Empowered women learn to JUST SAY NO! To make the first step toward developing an extraordinary relationship, start avoiding the following characters (can be men or women): The New Age Con – He uses a spiritual persona as pick-up tool. Sad but true. The Bad Boy – You will never fix or change him. The Practical Choice – There is one problem with this sensible solution: you feel no passion for him. The Hot Mess – The appeal fades in about four months when looks are his only redeeming quality. The Long-Distance Lover – A road to nowhere, based in fantasy and not reality. The Addict –Any type of addiction will limit one’s availability for intimacy. The Casanova – Make sure to check this smooth talker’s references before being seduced.  The Vulcher - This one goes in for the kill (sex) immediately, without taking the time to get to know you.  The Trust Fund Baby – Without motivation, how will he respond life’s challenges? The Online Dater who “Enjoys Outdoor Activities” – Hiking is great, but he must also be able to hold a deep conversation. The Extreme Opposite – Differences are important but attraction of an extreme opposite reflects a need for you to become more balanced in yourself.  The Follower – This person is a slave to others and will never step up as your equal match. The Cradle Robber – A man who ONLY dates younger women is immature, ego-centric, and no empowered woman his own age would put up with him. The Dufus – One who lacks self-awareness and does not learn from his mistakes will get old quickly. The Prestigious Package – A Ph.D. from Harvard means nothing without internal substance, so make sure he has both. Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be...

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10 Steps for Healing a Broken Heart

10 Steps for Healing a Broken Heart

As a psychotherapist, professional coach, spiritual guide, and business woman, Heather Hans has transformed her life on every level. She now partners with clients who are serious about living their best life. Healing from any and all devastation is possible for those who are willing. If you’re someone who wants to overcome your suffering, try following Heather’s 10 steps: Suffering. This stage arises from betrayal, defeat, loss, humiliation, and tragedy. It causes a crisis of faith and a feeling of a shattered heart. Shock and Survival. After devastation, your only job is to put one foot in front of the other and hang on with each moment. You can and will survive. Do not worry about how right now. Love and Compassion for the Self. This step is all about self-care and remains constant throughout healing and beyond. Laughter is necessary. Forgiveness of the Enemy. By fully stepping into the shoes of your enemy, you are able to forgive and release the toxic hatred that poisons you. Forgiveness of the Self. Only through acknowledging, accepting, and forgiving yourself for anything you’ve disowned in yourself will you ever be free. Realization that the self and the enemy are one. What you do or think about the enemy, you also do to and think about yourself, as ultimately, you are one. Dissolution of God as a separate entity. You become aware that God is not a separate being. God is you. You are life force and you are the creator of the life you ultimately live. Awakening to that which you seek you have already. You already have the essence of the qualities you most desire, regardless of form. Gratitude heals the heart and creates peace. Mastery of the ego. Peace and power come when you fully show up in this moment. Your separate identity contains your fears and separation from yourself, others, and God. Healed Heart. This is your natural state. Your heart has been made stronger because love is the most powerful force of all, and hearts cannot be broken. Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be...

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Top 10 Keys To Success For Winning At Life!

Top 10 Keys To Success For Winning At Life!

The One World Initiative "It's in practicing these keys to success that you'll truly succeed...this means attaining your grandest goals, dreams, and desires AND enjoying the process. Because...yes...it is possible." Here are 10 keys to success courtesy of Heather Hans, trained psychotherapist, licensed social worker, certified professional intuitive coach, law of attraction advanced practitioner, and business woman. Yes….maybe you already KNOW some of these keys to success, but the reason they’re considered “keys” is because although so many people know them, very few people actually practice them. It’s in practicing these keys to success that you’ll truly succeed…this means attaining your grandest goals, dreams, and desires AND enjoying the process! Because…yes…it is possible. Enter Heather Hans with her top 10 keys to success: 1.)    Realize that your potential is limitless.   Your success depends on how you give and receive energy.  Everything from our bodies to our thoughts to our social exchanges are made of various forms of energy in flux.  Every successful leader has learned to master the movement of energy. Mastering your overall life energy (mood, emotions, etc) is one of the most important keys to success. 2.)    Diet is the base.  Your diet is the single biggest source of energy for you to live a fruitful life. Give your body what it needs and it will serve you in reaching your greatest potential.  Most importantly, eat real food and limit anything in a package.  Make sure every meal and snack has a protein and quality fat, eat just the right amount, and drink plenty of water. 3.)    Exercise your body.  You will have the wherewithal to skyrocket in whichever direction you chose when you are not bogged down with physical and mental limitations due to lack of exercise.  The key to success when it comes to maintaining a sustainable exercise program is this: do something you enjoy and pick a consistent time of day to do it. 4.)    Follow ancient wisdom of allowing time for rest. The most creative moments of all great thinkers and artists were inspired during times of mental rest.  Anyone who overworks is a  slave; a slave to a need for success, a slave to others, or a slave to fear.  Rest includes complete inactivity, contemplative time, such as meditation, nature, music, art, and self-care. Everyone thinks the keys to success are in action, action, action. Today I’m here to tell you that inaction is also an important type of action. 5.)    Play until your heart’s content!  Pure play and pleasure simultaneously relaxes and stimulates the brain and body, develops your creativity, problem-solving abilities, and mental health.  Plus, it feels great, which is success in and of itself!  Find what feels like play to you and don’t worry whether it is fun for anyone else.  Some ideas are socializing, dressing up, dancing, sports, games, travel, and lovemaking. 6.)    Stay organized.  Keeping organized in our thoughts and physical space leads to increased energy and momentum to complete tasks necessary to fulfill our greatest goals.  Rhythms are natural and vital in plants, animals, humans, and other living organisms.  Maintain generally consistent times to eat, rest, exercise, do chores, and play, while allowing for spontaneity as needed. 7.)    Surround yourself with healthy, positive, supportive, and successful people.  These people will reflect back to you your highest self and support you in realizing your dreams.  Become selective about the company you keep and...

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5 Tips for Personal Success and Leading a Harmonious Life

5 Tips for Personal Success and Leading a Harmonious Life

As a psychotherapist, professional coach, spiritual guide, and business woman, Heather Hans has transformed her life on every level. She now partners with clients who are serious about success and confirms that anything is possible, but only for those who are highly motivated, creative, brave, astute, and are driven by a desire to contribute to the world. Having it all is achievable. Obtaining success and the life of your dreams is a step-by-step process, each piece building on itself, which takes time, dedication, and full responsibility for one's life. If you’re someone who wants big success in your life, try Heather’s five tips: 1.    You must believe. Our thoughts are the beginning of our desires manifested. All successes that you have already achieved are a result of your belief that you could do it. Once you have this belief, there are other steps you must follow, but unlimited belief is foundation of it all. 2.    Build a foundation of health. Develop a healthy mind, body, and soul as a foundation for all great success. A wide variety of professionals and self-help resources are necessary in this endeavor. You play the biggest role in these efforts, however, so you must be diligent in your efforts and trust your instincts. 3.    Determine your deepest desires. Your diligence and the laws of energy will work in your favor once you become certain of your goals. The key is to select the goals that are truly in line with your values. Goals that are rooted in love and betterment of the world are most likely to be supported by the universe and achieved. 4.    Develop a business mind and be brave. Goals are achieved through plans, action, organization, seizing of opportunities, and results. Intentions alone will not create success. Also, learn to dismiss the many voices that will try to sabotage your success and criticize your big dreams. Having courage does not mean that you are not scared of the unknown. It means, even though you are scared, you persevere anyway. And remember, any gate or door that closes on you, a more enchanting one will open a few steps up. 5.    Have fun and let your inner child shine! The process of fulfilling your dreams is a canvas with you as the artist. When you have fun with it, you relax, and when you relax, you have renewed energy and are inspired with creative ideas and solutions. Plus, enjoying life is the biggest success of all. Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be...

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