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We’re all a little nuts, but there are varying degrees on the spectrum and some people are just too far gone for you to waste your time. We can make excuses for people’s bad behavior in an attempt to bond with them, and I’m not one to label, but sometimes you just gotta call a spade a spade and move on…let me give you the skinny.

 

When you find yourself saying, “She’s always there for me. All she wants to do is make me happy.”

–She’s CODEPENDENT.

 

“He’s hot & cold but when he’s hot, he’s oh so loving!”

–He’s a NARCISSIST.

 

“She’s intensely passionate all the time with every emotion.”

–She’s BORDERLINE.

 

“I know he has a good heart in him, even though he has tremendous anger issues.”

–He’s AN EX-MARINE WITH PTSD.

 

“She’s always living in fantasy land. Maybe it’s cause she’s a Pisces.”

–No, she’s SCHIZOID.

 

“I must have really offended him. He acted like he didn’t even care whether I was dead or alive.”

-He’s a SOCIOPATH.

 

“She’s extremely organized. She even folds her dirty laundry.”

–She has OCD.

 

“He drinks often, but not more than the average American.”

-He’s an ALCOHOLIC.

 

Let’s be straight here…these people have to be willing to change. People with personality disorders are not willing, and if they are, it’s going to take them a lifetime of work. Do you want to wait around for that?

 

It doesn’t make you a good & loving person to stay in relationships with these people. It makes you a wounded heart who doesn’t believe that true love is available to you.

 

I encourage you to guard your precious heart and hold out for true love!

 

 

Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with ConfidenceIt is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life.  Join Heather’s 30-Day confidence challenge at heatherhans.avanoo.com