I have a true story for you dating back nine years and, though this story’s about me, it’s about all of us because none of us live in a vacuum. We’re all interconnected. The story’s also about my son, my therapist, a newspaper reporter, my colleagues and office mates, and, of course, a higher power.
Nine years ago I found myself faced with the decision of divorce and I knew at that point that I had to get a divorce. I had a young baby at home and up until that point, it was the most challenging experience I had faced. In order to get help and support along the way I went into counseling, and the counselor I saw rented an office in this beautiful location where I live. It’s the most healing location I can think of in my home town, right by a creek and up against the mountains. There were deer and mountain lion that lived right outside of the door. Gorgeous healing spot which is just what I needed during that painful, painful period. As I sat in that healing center wondering how I was going to get through this and how I was going to get my son through it, I remembered that what I also wanted to do with my life was to help people who were also in pain the way I was.
As I did get through the divorce and did help my son get through it, one day at a time, I remember saying to my counselor “I want to do what you do.” “I want to help people the way you’re helping me through their pain.” And my counselor said, “You should! You’ll be better than me!” That was another obstacle that I faced because it required four more years of schooling and training. I already had one master’s degree. I had invested ten years into a career, but I didn’t like that career. It was not good for me. It was not bringing forth my greatest talents and passions and assets. So, I went back to school while raising my son as a single mom and I overcame, one day at a time, the obstacle of everything I had to do to in order to have this new career.
When I finished I ended up starting a private practice, and where was it? It was not just in the same building that I had been in years before dealing with my divorce; it was in the exact same unit, the same office that I was in! That office that was so healing to me that I wanted to be in one day counseling people going through their hard times - I was in that office! My intuition told me when it was time to leave; my intuition told me where I wanted to be.
Because life is always changing and dynamic and we are growing in every moment, after a couple of years of private practice in that office I remembered my calling from way back in my childhood, which said, "You are meant to serve and help many, many, many people from the stage and on camera, not just one-on-one." Right about that time I started to notice that the energy in this office felt really stale. It felt dead. Because it was such a healing location, the tenants in that building had been there 20+ years and it felt like there was no movement. The place even smelled musty. So with my new dream and vision in mind and my eerie sense that I had to get out of that building, I left and when I packed up my final belongings and walked out that door I said to myself, in these words, “I’m so glad to be getting out of there. That place needs a major shift.”
One month later that building was destroyed by a mudslide and literally cut in half. Shifted in half. It had to be demolished. My intuition, again, told me when it was time to leave and my intuition told me where I was headed. At that point I said to myself, “Next, I’m going to be interviewed by the press because I’m going to be making a difference reaching many, many people, rather than just one at a time. Two weeks ago I sat in a quaint little restaurant in my hometown being interviewed by our local newspaper writer and reporter for a two-page feature story that they’re doing about me and my work. What is my point? My point is that my intuition has always told me when it was time to leave, and my intuition has always directed me where I’m going, and yours does, too! Do you listen to it? Do you listen to that quiet voice deep within? It is the most reliable instrument you will ever possess.
Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. Join Heather’s 30-Day confidence challenge at heatherhans.avanoo.com