Despite the endless amount of growth & learning we can do to become our fullest selves, we are limited. We are human beings in human bodies with human tendencies. So as a self-help guru, I tell you in all honesty that there are some things with which you cannot help yourself. Peace and fulfillment come when you ask God what to pray for. When you ask that God use you for the highest purpose. Once you can humbly face this fact, you are ready to receive help from the One who can.