Top 3 most memorable rejections of your life - what were they? How did they push you forward?

When you hide and don’t put yourself out there for fear of rejection, you remain weak and fragile. How you value yourself is what truly matters. When you value yourself, you tell people that you are valuable.

Surprise! Your level of confidence can actually grow according to the level of rejection you receive. As the number of rejections increase, the intensity with which you care about the rejection decreases until ultimately you can say, “Kiss my @&&!”

number of rejections

Any sales person will tell you, it’s a numbers game, baby. The more attempts you make, the more likely you are to succeed. It’s called the law of probabilities. Math is a gift from the Divine. All spiritual scriptures emphasis the significance of numbers. Your creator is a mathematician!

Vulnerability and rejection are required to get what you want. As Gandhi said, “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” You’ve got nothing to lose but an inflated ego. None of us know when we are going to be plucked from this earth, but I guarantee you it’s sooner than you think. Why live in fear of rejection when today is all you have?


Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with ConfidenceIt is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life.