It’s a New Year, and a New You, and Healer and Spiritual teacher Heather Hans shares how the forlorn and lonesome can overcome their personal suffering and jump into the mystery and excitement that is 2013.

As the darkest days of winter are now in the past, and a New Year shines on the horizon, Heather Hans wants individuals to recognize that experiencing pain, and overcoming pain, is a necessary and integral part of the human experience.  She added, “The goal is not to transcend pain or reach some dangling-carrot state of enlightenment described by a crisscrossed legged guru. Rather, if we can live fully, and consciously use our pain to live our best life, then we may gain meaning in our own life and the events of the world.”

Ironically, Hans suggests that the way out of suffering is to walk right into your pain. She said, “As Robert Frost said, the best way out is always through." But what happens most often is that we reach for any type of numbing remedy the instant we feel uneasy. For some people, drugs, alcohol, food, or overuse of internet serve this purpose. For others, giving to others and controlling do the trick. Whatever the go-to fix, we avoid opening our hearts to our own pain to hear what it has to say. The unknown frightens us and so we would rather stick to tried and true vices, which ultimately cause us to spin our wheels and stay stuck in repetitive suffering.”

“Pain is a gift if we allow it to be so. By virtue of our capacity to love, our hearts and bodies serve as internal barometers to indicate that balance must be restored. So, I encourage you to feel your pain,” added Hans. “Open the door and walk right into it. Cry your heart out, wonder if there is a reason to live, and allow yourself to feel the pain of the world and of your own life. Be angry at God. God can take it. Let it all out and allow yourself to be answerless.”

Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with ConfidenceIt is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be shared).