As the holidays approach, Love Expert and Psychotherapist, Heather Hans, is offering insights for men and women looking for success in the World of Love.
1.) Good Nutrition. A nourishing diet is the base for healthy development and productive and satisfying living. Children’s brains do not stop forming until their mid-twenties and they, especially, need a nutritious diet for proper development.
2.) A Balanced Lifestyle. Overstimulation is one of the most unloving acts we can allow in a child’s life. It takes effort to adhere to boundaries and create a healthy rate and rhythm in your child’s life, but he/she pays a price when you do not do so, such as compromising their immune system and creating psychological disorders. Having a balanced amount of activities in a day or a week allows a child to feel centered and fully digest their experience.
3.) Presence. Attention is the biggest forms of love you can give to anyone, especially a child. Really listen to your child. What is it like in her world? What are his feelings? The wise and nurturing parent listens more than talks to their child. Get down at eye level and put yourself in their shoes. Make a point of carving out time to be present with them, and put your other thoughts and tasks on hold while you do so.
4.) Praise and Acceptance. It’s so easy for parents to go into “automatic” and point out their child’s needed areas of improvement. And it is important to address these areas if they cause a problem for the child. Boundaries are a key to good health. However, what they need the most is to know how unconditionally loveable they are. They don’t want to know that you know it all. They want to know that they are loved.
5.) Spiritual Education and Support. It’s important to make sure that kids are staying connected to the source on a day-to-day basis. Take the time to discuss spirituality with your children, and remember to encourage them to discover for themselves what God/Life/Love means to them. Having children donate their time at community events is an example of a way kids can feel connected to a bigger purpose.
Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be shared).